What is a "lovey"?
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Basically, a lovey is some sort of stuffed animal or blanket that acts as a security object. Even if your child is in an unfamiliar place, they feel comforted by the presence of their "lovey."
I'll never . . .
I'm a little embarrassed to admit how much I used to judge parents. I must have said "When I'm a parent, I'll never . . ." at least a million times (in my head, of course!). And then, of course, I found myself doing the exact same thing I was sure I'd never do. The lovey is a prime example. I never wanted Kate to have one because I didn't want it to be a big issue if it ever got lost, or damaged and I didn't want to go through the hassle of "detaching" Kate from it.
But several months after saying "I'll never," Kate went through a stage of screaming every time I put her down for a nap or bed. I found myself desperate. And, on a whim, I grabbed her little bunny, put it in the crib, and asked, "Kate, do you want to go night-night with bunny?" All of the sudden Kate was wriggling out of my arms, trying to get in her crib. And it was so nice.
Besides that, I found that she slept a lot better in her pack 'n play when we weren't at home if she had her blanky (yes, now we have two loveys!) and bunny.
So, here I am, breaking the rules I set for myself because they make Kate happy for now. And that's what motherhood is often about - surviving the now.
Any thoughts on giving your child a lovey?
Side note: The book also recommends having a duplicate lovey - you know, just in case you lose one, as with my fear.